28/02/2014

*fin fredag (og noen tanker om blogging)!


jeg er veldig glad i bloggen min! 
den har fulgt meg i større eller mindre grad siden jeg ble mamma for første gang, og så mange av mine tanker og minner fra småbarnsperioden ligger samlet på dette domenet.
den har forandret seg veldig siden jeg la ut det første innlegget mitt for over fem år siden, og det kan man på mange måter si at jeg har gjort også.
 det å bli mamma har sentrert meg, og jeg liker å tro at jeg er en bedre utgave av meg selv nå.
og det tror jeg kanskje bloggen er også.

jeg må innrømme at jeg til tider har vært ambivalent til bloggingen, og har hatt planer om å takke for meg flere ganger, men det er noe som holder meg tilbake.
jeg har flere historier å fortelle, flere bilder å vise og flere tanker å dele med dere.
men jeg har kanskje blitt mer privat, verner litt mer om familielivet vårt og lar mange episoder forbli i det virkelige familiealbumet i stedet for å legge det ut til allmenn skue.
for meg føles det riktig akkurat nå.

men når det er sagt, så kan jeg love dere at dere ikke blir kvitt meg ennå!
jeg blir så takknemlig og rørt over alle mailer og kommentarer jeg får fra dere om at dere savner blogginnleggene mine, og det gir meg skikkelig motivasjon til å fortsette. 
jeg trenger dette "luftehullet" i hverdagen min, og selv om jeg til tider finner det vanskelig å prioritere bloggen midt i en heftig tilværelse med to små barn, husplanlegging, jobb og mye annet som skjer, så skal jeg fortsette å skrive her på bloggen.
 så for å få piffen litt tilbake, så hadde jeg satt uhorvelig stor pris på om dere kunne gitt meg noen hint og vink om hva dere kunne ønske dere mer av her inne. 
mama needs inspiration;)

ha en fin fredag, folkens; vi skal straks ut å inspisere husbyggingen!

24/02/2014

*bygg reis deg!




med litt uskarpe bilder fra telefonen (glemte kameratet hjemme) får dere her en oppdatering på hvordan det står til med husbyggingen vår.
på utsiden begynner det virkelig å ta form, og snart begynner de for fullt inne også.
de fleste valg når det kommer til kjøkken og bad er nå tatt, og jeg gleder meg til å vise dere hva vi planlegger!

om en drøy måned legges leiligheten vår her på løkka ut for salg, så om dere vet om noen som er på jakt etter en klassisk bygårdleilighet på beste grünerløkka, så er det bare å be dem følge med i slutten av mars.

ha en fin mandag, fine folk!



17/02/2014

*terezas historie.



i dag har jeg lånt bort litt bloggplass til min fine venninne tereza. hun har hatt en skikkelig, skikkelig kjip opplevelse med hormonspiralen hun har brukt det siste halve året, og ønsket å fortelle andre sin historie. det er selvfølgelig ikke alle som får disse bivirkningene ved bruk av hormonspiral, men vær obs på at dette faktisk kan skje! 
så ta deg tid til å les terezas historie; kanskje du kjenner deg igjen?


My Mirena Hell

I’m a mother of two beautiful children. I have a loving, supportive husband. I love my job. I eat well and exercise. I don’t want a 3rd child. No, thank you. I went to a private clinic a year after my daughter was born to ask for the least intrusive contraceptive for my body. I informed my doctor that as a teenager I reacted badly to a birth control pill and therefore would prefer to avoid a hormonal contraceptive. I was given a copper spiral. I bled for months. I went back and decided to take the hormonal spiral on the recommendation of my gynecologist, ensuring me that things have changed since the 90s.
I went happily home. Nothing happened for a couple of weeks and than my insomnia started. For many months I just had a hard time to fall asleep after being woken up by the kids. But my son is 5 and sleeps like a log and my daughter, who has inherited my lighter sleep, doesn’t sleep badly but she still wakes up once, half of the nights in the week and usually goes back to sleep. This shouldn’t really make me feel so bad and so sleep deprived. But once I was woken up by any light disturbances in the night, I would stay wide-awake, sometimes for hours. Strange.
And than came the anxiety, light to be honest but anxiety nevertheless. I sometimes found my life just too overwhelming, too scary and too full of events and noise and people. Sometimes just emptying the dishwasher seemed overwhelmingly difficult. I increased my exercise, ignoring my bad nights. I thought, I have to work harder, be tougher, be a better, calmer mother. I thought I just needed to overcome this nonsense of feelings, finding myself “weak”.
Anyway, things got out of hand, very badly. My last month with Mirena has turned into a living hell. On a good night I had five hours of sleep. My husband had to let me sleep alone, so as not to disturb me. My dear husband also had to take care of any night waking by the kids, just so that I had a few hours of undisturbed sleep. And then I stopped sleeping altogether. I mean I went to bed exhausted. I had used up all my energy during the day just trying to cope, sleepdeprived, with going to work, picking up the kids, making a healthy dinner and being a good mum. I would go to bed, sleep two hours, wake up and stay awake for the rest of the night. I was loosing my mind. Falling to pieces bit by bit. I didn’t function. I did everything I knew to try to go back to sleep. Calming tea didn’t work. Reading didn’t work. Music didn’t work. Over the counter sleeping pills, bought in the UK worked a bit and than didn’t work, exercising wasn’t any longer possible, I had no strength. I felt so wired, I actually felt like there were things zooming through my body super fast, keeping me awake. Kind of like a hormonal super highway. And that’s when it hit me! Why do I not sleep? I’m happy, I exercise (except the last month) and I eat well. What’s going on? Why am I loosing my mind? This is not me! What has changed in the last few months? Oh yes, I got Mirena inserted. But surely, hormonal contraceptive doesn’t cause insomnia, or does it?!
I got up the next morning, destroyed after only two hours of sleep and Googled Mirena. Before I even had a chance to type insomnia, Google suggested: Mirena
and depression, Mirena and anxiety, Mirena and sleeplessness, Mirena and insomnia. BINGO! I found hundreds of women complaining about the exact symptoms I was experiencing. I was so happy, I cried. Reading the lines was like holding a mirror to my personal nightmare. There were symptoms listed that I had and hadn’t even thought about connecting them to Mirena. Blurred vision, tingling hands, dizziness, anxiety, bad memory, foggy brain etc. I called my clinic that by the way has charged me almost 2000kr to have the Mirena inserted, to beg them to have this alien, occupying my body, removed asap. The receptionist told me calmly, she could give me an appointment in ten days. Ten days?! I was loosing my mind! I needed this thing out NOW! She listened to my mad rambling and said without any empathy that the earliest she could do was eight days. Eight days! I couldn’t survive another day, sleeping two hours a night! I already had to call in sick, have my husband to take the kids to the nursery, because I couldn’t face anyone and I didn’t have the strength needed to deal with little kids. I was a wreck! I needed an appointment today or tomorrow! Anyway, my husband, extremely worried for me by this point, told me to call my GP (fastlege), and get some strong sleeping pills, perhaps even ask him to remove the spiral. I called my doctor, cried on the phone. I was so desperate. I received an appointment the same day. While waiting in the room for the appointment I was literally only tiny weeny bit away from a huge panic attack. I only kept it together by squeezing my husband’s hand. I was so anxious, so scared. When the doctor finally saw us in, he listened to me and said the most pleasant words: “Lets remove the Mirena right now, shall we? :o)”. He also said he believes that indeed my insomnia, and thereof anxiety can be caused by hormonal contraceptive. He said it is pretty common (!) and he believes I should get better within a few days when the hormones leave my body. He prescribed me sleeping pills. That was yesterday. Tonight, I slept like a baby for 10h straight. Although relieved, I’m still scared and still tine weeny anxious but I’m positive and hopeful that my personal hell with Mirena is over.
I want every woman to know about these side affects of Mirena before allowing it in her body. It can ruin your life! 


har du eller noen du kjenner opplevd slike bivirkninger ved bruk av hormonspiral?

ps! takk, søte tereza, for at du ønsket å fortelle andre kvinner din vonde opplevelse.

11/02/2014

*@mammarådet!

#bradamer!!!!! et nesten fulltallig knippe av forfatterne bak boka "mammarådet"; gunn beate, susanne, idde mari, jona, meg, anita, suzanne, nann karin, pia, stine, carina og marte.

fysj, for en hyggelig kveld vi hadde på lanseringen av boka vår forrige uke!
jeg må innrømme at jeg var ganske shaky i bena og en smule smånervøs da jeg entret lokalene til aschehoug, for den eneste jeg hadde truffet før var dama bak boka, nydelige susanne. men snublende ben og nervepirring gikk over til bobler i magen og gledesutbrudd veldig fort da jeg traff disse bra damene! 
det var ganske rart og veldig absurd å plutselig stå ansikt til ansikt med folk du bare har sett via skjermen på data`n, men jeg kan forsikre dere om at samtlige jeg rakk å hilse på var like fine, fjonge og dyktige som de er på bloggene sine.

jeg håper dere har lyst til å kjøpe boka.
jeg har snart kommet meg gjennom hele, og jeg kan love dere at den er skikkelig, skikkelig bra:)

fin tirsdag!



04/02/2014

*vil du være med så heng på!



i morgen lanseres boka vår (!), og det skal feires med en uformell fest hos aschehoug!
så hvis du er i byen og har lyst på litt fingermat, god drikke og møte en haug med hyggelige damer så er det bare å komme. det blir selvfølgelig mulig å kjøpe boka til en hyggelig pris:)

håper vi sees!

01/02/2014

*how wonderful life is while you`re in the world!


ganske så ofte må jeg klype meg selv i armen. 
hvor heldig får man egentlig bli?!

fin lørdag!